yup, apparently, it totally is! just like everything else!
uhhh.
listen. don’t try and ‘talk me out of’ anorexia by telling me, ‘no! men like curves on women!’
1) you can’t ‘talk me out’ of a mental disorder.
2) i’m not in this because i want to look good for men. i’m in this because i want to look as sickly as possible, so that people believe there is something wrong with me. that is MY reason. some other reasons for eating disorders include: feeling like one does not deserve food, putting oneself through physical trauma to punish oneself, having a literally distorted physical view of oneself, to control something, ANYTHING… etc etc.
3) even if i was, NO. MEN DO NOT ‘LIKE CURVES.’ men like specific kinds of curves, i.e. perfect ones. like Beyoncé’s perfect curves. men do not like normal people curves like everyone else at a normal weight fucking has.
4) in fact, some people with eating disorders AREN’T EVEN FUCKING STRAIGHT. indeed, a good number of people with eating disorders ARE EVEN MALE! imagine that!!!!!
5) yes, a lot of people with eating disorders say ‘i just want to be beautiful.’ and i can’t speak for everyone, but in my experience, it’s false. it’s just false. it’s about being good enough. it’s about being perfect. it’s about wanting people to finally find you to be the perfect superwoman you’re expected to be. and part of being a perfect superwoman is being 98 lbs.
i’m not claiming to be an expert. all i know is my experience and the experiences of my friends. i’m not saying that no-one should even bother talking to people with eating disorders because it won’t work anyway. no. i am saying that thinking that a couple of words of encouragement is going to help is foolish, and that saying ‘but men won’t even like you if you’re that skinny!’ is even more idiotic. it doesn’t have to be about men. WHY CAN’T IT JUST BE ABOUT US FOR ONCE IN OUR FUCKING LIVES?!
